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Oscars 2022 – A Lost Moment in Time

“Now this is the story all about how my life got flip-turned upside-down, and I’d like to take a minute just sit right there, I’ll tell you how I became the…”  We all know the rest of the catchy, iconic theme song of the 90s sensation, Fresh Prince of Bel-Air.  What a foreshadowing of eventual future events.  One could honestly argue that those lyrics took on a different meaning during the film industry’s most celebrated night of March 2022. Certainly, not a prince anymore. 

Get my wife’s name out your f*ckin’ mouth!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=myjEoDypUD8

What could have been actor Will Smith’s defining evening turned out to be his worst.  Known as the “Slap Seen Around the World,” the incident has left us sickened and disgusted by his display of unhinged violence.  Look, I have nothing against Will Smith.  He has a stellar knack for acting and always displays a likable, comedic personality; that is, until this year’s Oscars when his world was rocked and literally turned upside down – all of his own volition. 

In addition to the ongoing shock and disbelief, the unfathomable incident that took place between Smith and comedic icon Chris Rock has left us wanting answers.  On the surface, it seemed as though King Richard’s leading man was defending his wife from a perceived attack on her medical condition.  Later, Rock admitted that he wasn’t aware of her alopecia.  Many individuals are not shy of pointing out that Smith’s actions stemmed from something deeper; perhaps, a slew of unresolved issues brewing deep within his subconscious.

My Thoughts

I don’t believe his behavior was the direct result of his wife’s hair condition.  Initially, you can see the A-lister laughing along with the rest of the audience.  Beneath that humor was anger rising to the surface. Then, in an awkward twist of events, you see him walking up to greet Rock on stage, and what happened next initiated a shockwave around the globe.  Cue in Nicole Kidman’s reaction, which is hilariously becoming a meme.  Chris Rock displayed nothing but pure professionalism and restraint at a time when he could have chosen not to.  Those actions alone demonstrate the type of individual he is.  He held his head high amidst feeling broken and demeaned by one of his peers.  

We should take the high road here and not take sides.  We need to treat both fellow men as equals, in the sense that they’re both human beings with emotions and flaws.  In no way does this condone Smith’s behavior. Every single living person on this planet has imperfections that cause the wrong decisions to be made.  To err is to be human. Properly atoning for our misdoings is what allows us to rise above the defects that challenge us. 

Denzel Washington’s Salient Advice

Hollywood legend Denzel Washington left us salient advice when he said, “At your highest moment, be careful. That’s when the devil comes for you.”  He was referring to the ego and how it can sabotage us when we’re at our best and eclipse our true selves. What was it that caused Smith to lose restraint and let his inner demons reign supreme?  I’m not sure we’ll ever know; in fact, I’m not sure if the 2022 Best Actor recipient will ever know. 

Sure, Will Smith won the Best Actor Oscar Award for his portrayal of Richard Williams, father to tennis prodigies, Serena and Venus Williams.  Indeed, he was deserving of the motion picture accolade for his acting alone.  He should have been escorted out of the facility for his maddened display of sheer bullying and violence.  Not under any circumstances should anyone hit, punch or smack someone for saying words. 

Jim Carrey Weighs in

Comedy aficionado Jim Carrey eloquently alluded to this by saying, “I was sickened. I was sickened by the standing ovation. I felt like Hollywood is just spineless en masse. And it really felt like this is a really clear indication that we’re not the cool club anymore.”  He went on to further reiterate, “I’d have announced this morning that I was suing Will for 200 million dollars, because that video is going to be there forever. It’s going to be ubiquitous. That insult is going to last a very long time. If you want to yell from the audience or disapprove or show disapproval, or say something on Twitter or whatever…you do not have the right to walk up on stage and smack somebody in the face because they said words.” 

A Display of Hypocrisy?

An unscripted exhibition of hypocrisy occurred just moments after Chris Rock was attacked in front of millions of people.  After Smith accepted his award, those in the audience of course, gave him a standing ovation.  Maybe some individuals didn’t want to but consented to it out of peer pressure.  Many feel that the Men in Black star’s acceptance speech was riddled with insincerities when he stated, “Love will make you do crazy things.  In this time in my life, at this moment, I am overwhelmed by what God is calling on me  to do and be in this world.” He goes on to say, “Richard was a fierce defender of his family.”  With this statement alone, it’s evident that Smith was maybe acting out his character’s traits in real life.  In other words, at that moment when he slapped Rock in the face, maybe he couldn’t differentiate between himself and his character.

Society looks up to those in the public eye and often places them on unneeded pedestals.  There’s this false ideal regarding celebrities; that by living the high life, they’re not subjected to the same challenges and problems as the rest of us.  The incident between Rock and Smith crushed that archetype and brought the truth to the surface – that the stars of Hollywood are just as human as anyone else in this world.  They breathe the same air and eat the same food.  They endure joy, anger, sadness and dejection.  They are subjected to the consequences of their actions.  What we saw occur during this event shattered the fallacy that everything in Hollywood is picture-perfect.  Quite the contrary.

There’s that old saying, “Still waters run deep.”  Will Smith has some profound, inner reflecting to do.  He needs to look within to seek the pain that ebbs deep inside.  Only then will he find some peace.  Anger is a fleeting emotion, one that recedes with the tincture of time.  Sure, the world is feeling quite dismayed as a result of Smith’s aggression.  He needs to embrace whatever penalties come his way.  However, as a human being, he deserves prayers as opposed to being ostracized.

Chris Rock will bounce back from the embarrassment and humiliation.  He’s already validating this by fulfilling his comedy performances.  His friends, family, and colleagues are rallying around him offering lots of support.  Society needs to uplift him and pray for his well-being after such a traumatic event.

Let this entire experience be a reminder of the importance of compassion, love and respect – not just for one’s self but for fellow man and the world at large.  Collectively embracing these three attributes will undoubtedly dry the tears of the world. 

Photo Courtesy of the Los Angeles Times

COVID-19’s Message to Humanity

The year 2020 started off with a proverbial bang, initializing a shockwave of disbelief and confusion once COVID-19 made its mark.  This latest pandemic, in all its shape and form, has coerced humanity to readjust to life in so many ways.   By nature, humans are social creatures and when deprived of this daily necessity, can experience a multitude of physical ailments and mental disorders.

Yes, we’ve seen staggering increases in depression, loneliness and emotional upset. As a direct result of COVID-19’s slap in our face, we’ve all – in our own, unique ways – have had to adopt to the virtual way of communicating with one another; it’s not as unforeseen as one may think, especially with the advent of technology; however, when you’re forced to contend with it as your primary means of connection, it can cause an ongoing wave of anxiety, confusion and disconnection.   Each person has been upended by this pervasive pandemic; some worse than others.   Tragic loss of life has occurred, jobs have been lost, financial issues have turned into crises, our primary way of associating has changed and the list goes on.   Without a shred of doubt, our natural order and daily rituals of survival have been overturned in so many drastic ways. 

With all of the challenges that have come about as a direct result of COVID-19, it almost begs us to examine the positives; the inherent message(s) we need to collectively heed from enduring this mass pandemic.  Let’s explore what this global virus is trying to teach us – albeit on a global scale, of course. 

I do want to emphasize that amidst what’s going on, the universe is begging us to take some time out, look inward and apply some self-reflection. Maybe, just maybe, this is the greater good’s way of reminding us to slow down, take deep breaths, get back in touch with our inner core and remember what’s most important.  This is a time, when social disconnect seems to be running the show; perhaps, it’s the ultimate crash course in the true meaning of human connection and togetherness.  Until now, we’ve taken it all for granted; then, in a blink of an eye, when it’s stripped before our eyes, we yearn to have it back again. Social distancing was in need of happening to remind us of the importance of relationships – relationships with ourselves, our loved ones, our friends, our co-workers and the many transient individuals we come across in our daily lives.  Whether we are consciously aware or not, each individual contributes to the nexus of society and the world at large.

We all lead busy, hectic lives. As such, it’s easy to lose sight on some of the smaller, most beautiful aspects of what it is to be human. Of course, we have to remain common-sensed and rational without over-hyped panic; maybe this “virus” is symbolizing the need to spread a sense of homeostasis among humanity – a restoration of balance, humility, wellness and vitality.  It has taken COVID-19 to remind us to live in the now, act with kindness, rest and relax, take up a hobby or creative endeavor that we’ve convinced ourselves we don’t have time for, get in touch with the pureness of nature and its everlasting beauty, stop and pay attention to the things that seem so little in life but are truly momentous.  Perhaps, our society has had to crumble just a bit in order to mutually build back up.  The foundation has always been there but it has taken a global situation to remind us of its importance and strength.  

So, let’s not resist the message that COVID-19 is attempting to impart. Let’s face it, head-on as a society of togetherness.  In the midst of this, let’s always remember the legacies of our fellow brothers and sisters who’ve succumbed to the fight.  If not for ourselves, let’s continue our triumph over tragedy for them and the world at large. 

Let’s Breathe Together

Note:  This was written shortly after George Floyd’s passing. 

As I digest the events surrounding our country – our world – right now, I can’t help but pick up a few things; things that are rather obvious if we each stop, look inward and pay attention.

It isn’t coincidence that a relentless virus is penetrating our globe right now amidst the onslaught of protests over an innocent person’s horrific demise. Let’s stop and each examine the various parallels between the two. I don’t need to sit here and type them out; I think they are fairly visible to those who are willing to see.

Regardless of where we come from, we each breathe the same air; our bodies are made of the same organs and systems; we are exposed to the same viruses; we each experience the emotions that come with anger, grief and loss; we can each stand for what we believe in…the list goes on.

The unfathomable passing of George Floyd – our fellow American, our fellow brother, our fellow son, our fellow father, our fellow friend -has ripped off the scar to a wound that’s been ever-pervasive in our society since the dawning of man. That wound, now fresh and exposed once again, is bleeding with an inescapable urgency and thirst for the greater good among all. In order to penetrate the nucleus and enact the principles we’re begging for, each one of us has to find the answer within. Only from that point, can we extend it outward toward our communities, towns, cities, nations, universes and galaxies beyond. It. Starts. Within. Each. Of. Us.

What exactly is this? It’s the embedded love, innocence and pure goodness that we’re each born with. Many have grasped onto these attributes and have never let go. Sadly, for some, they lose sight of them as they become buried beneath the torments plaguing our world. However, if one searches hard enough, he or she will find the light emanating beneath the rubble. When this occurs, healing and change will take place. The light never turns its back on anyone. It’s a patient friend and ally – to us all. But we have to seek to find it.

“Isms” aren’t innate; they are taught. Until we recognize this, they will continue to be spread and engrained into the mind of society. Every single time the word “race” or “racism” is said, it’s powering the “ism” that continues to divide fellow man. Every single time we use the words, “white, black, purple or red” to describe someone, we are continuing to segregate instead of equalize.

George’s life matters – yes, I say that in present tense for a reason.

Sadly, history has taught us to divide and conquer. Until we all gather together to re-write the scripts of the past, we will sadly continue down the same path of ignorance. Over and over. But we must do this with positivity and responsibility; it must be done with dignity and grace, not with revolting disgust.

Let’s honor George’s life and legacy by finally quenching society’s thirst for equity, respect, empathy and understanding. In order to love and respect our fellow human beings, we must first learn to love and respect ourselves.

Let’s give needed oxygen to brotherhood. Let’s turn “I can’t breathe,” into “I can breathe. We can breathe, together.”